Going through a divorce can be stressful for everyone involved, including a couple’s children. Although a separation or divorce will impact each child differently, it is still a time filled with transitions. For children, a divorce can mean moving out of the family home, changing schools, new scheduling and custody demands, and meeting a parent’s new partner. Understandably, when parents divorce many children feel angry, confused, guilty, or exhibit symptoms of anxiety. There are several steps parents can take in order to make the adjustment period following marriage dissolution easier on their kids.
It is important for newly separated or divorced parents to encourage their children to openly communicate both positive and negative feelings. Most children will have a lot of questions and display a wide range of feelings about their new life. Although parents should keep a child’s feelings completely separate from their own, it is a good idea to ensure children going through their parents’ divorce that lines of communication with parents are always open. It may also be helpful for children to discuss their feelings with a friend whose parents recently became divorced. Divorcing parents should also regularly remind their children that the separation was not way the child’s fault.
In order to make the adjustment to separate households easier, divorcing parents should not put their children in the middle of parental conflict or animosity. No matter what a divorcing couple’s situation is, it is always a good idea for parents to make an effort to remain both neutral and factual when discussing either the divorce or their former spouse around their kids. To help keep children from feeling like they must ‘choose’ a side, any heated disagreements should be discussed away from the former couple’s kids. Additionally, children should not be placed in the role of either messenger or spy.
One of the best ways for a divorcing parent to ensure the separation does not impact children negatively is to take care of themselves as well as the kids. Although divorcing is not easy, a strong support network of family, friends, and even professional counselors can help a parent in the midst of a split maintain a positive outlook. This may help kids adjust more easily.
In Florida, a final judgment of divorce for the parents of minor children will include a child custody arrangement and a parenting plan. Such an arrangement is also called a time-sharing plan. A time-sharing plan will outline where a child will spend overnights, holidays, and other important days of the year. If you are a parent who is considering divorce, you should contact a knowledgeable Florida divorce lawyer for assistance with protecting your rights.
Sandy T. Fox is an experienced Miami-Dade family law attorney. He is available to explain your rights, answer any questions you may have, and help you file your divorce or other family law case. Mr. Fox assists Florida clients with divorce, alimony, child custody, child support, paternity matters, adoptions, name changes, and other family law matters. To schedule your comprehensive family law case analysis, contact the Law Office of Sandy T. Fox through our website or call us today at (800) 596-0579.
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Additional Resources:
Helping children cope with divorce, by Dr. Sara Rivero-Conil, South Florida Parenting